Shane Parrish

Shane Parrish quotes on empathy

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The biggest generator of long term results is learning to do things when you don't feel like doing them. If you let excuses or emotion drive behavior, you're cheating yourself. Put aside the excuses and start doing what you need to do.

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How to take responsibility for your feelings: 1. Name the feeling 2. Acknowledge the feeling 3. Take responsibility for your feeling and figure out what you need 4. Communicate how you feel and what you need

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When it comes to regrets, it’s the dreams we didn’t go after that haunt us — the business we didn’t start, the book we didn’t write, the love we let slip away. When pursuing your dreams you won’t remember the bruises and failures, only the person you become.

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The biggest mistake we make with negative emotions is trying not to feel them. Awareness deepens positive emotions and allows negative ones to dissipate. Trying to avoid your feelings causes suffering.

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Trust allows relationships to compound. When you don't have to re-evaluate people or worry about protecting yourself all the time, you go both further and faster with less anxiety and stress.

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When someone responds to your questions with anger and frustration, it's unlikely they're a genius. More than likely, they don't know what they are doing and are frustrated with you because deep down you're exposing them to the lies they tell themselves.

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People think stopping when it starts to hurt is their best effort. It isn’t. Your best effort begins when it starts to hurt.

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So much of life is being present with the people you love.

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If you want clarity on what matters, imagine the thoughts you'll have on your last day. What matters? - How you treat people - How you love - Whether you live true to yourself - A calm mind The rest is noise.

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How you love is how you live.

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Trying to please everyone is a guaranteed prescription for unhappiness. The first step toward emotional freedom is realizing that you're not for everyone.

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You can’t evaluate/be skeptical of everything. Follow Pascal’s philosophy and only put effort into things that can hurt you when you’re wrong.

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Not only are you highly susceptible to the emotions of the people around us, but we also unconsciously adjust our work ethic to theirs.

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When someone shares their feelings with you, they’re letting you in not pushing you away.

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Feeling better and getting better are two different things.

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How you see shapes how you feel. How you feel shapes how you think. The combination of how you think & feel shapes how you act. Self-help is mostly aimed at the thinking & feeling level, which is why it doesn't really work long-term. To change how you act, change what you see.

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Feeling is the key to healing. Suppressing emotions and feelings means they simmer just below the surface waiting to boil over.

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I think part of the reason we’re quick to try and “solve” other people’s emotions is because we’re scared of feeling our own emotions. We do anything to avoid feeling — we analyze, problem solve, distract, and avoid.

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We're taught that if people are mad at us it's because we did something wrong. This teaches us to ignore how WE feel. Ignoring our feelings leads to over-thinking, anxiety, and stress. Just because someone is mad at you doesn't make you a bad person.

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Being alone with pain and stress isn't natural. Needing connection, emotional safety, and support doesn't mean something is wrong with you, it means something is right with you.

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Love is rocket fuel for life.

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