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Common causes of bad decisions:
1. Assumptions from small sample sizes
2. Wanting the world to work the way we want
3. Conforming to expectations/authority/group
4. Blindness to large trends
5. Inability to determine "and then what"
6. Using incorrect maps
If a decision is reversible, make it as soon as possible. If a decision is irreversible, make it as late as possible.
When the stakes are low, inaction hurts you. When the stakes are high, speed can kill you.
Every choice you make is a step toward or away from the person you want to become.
No single choice will get you where you want to go. Only repeated steps over time in the same direction will move you forward.
You have to be willing to look like an idiot in the short run to outperform in the long run.
While copying what others already do helps achieve average results quickly, common approaches never outperform.
What ends as being better starts as being different.
In the moment some choices seem small: we eat the chocolate bar, take a shortcut, or cancel a date.
However, the accumulation of those tiny decisions adds up over months and years and makes a huge difference.
Today’s choices become tomorrow’s reality.
You choose who you are.
You own your attitude.
You own your integrity.
You own your response.
You own your character.
You own your capacity to love.
You own your willingness to help others.
You own how you talk to others and yourself.
You own your happiness.
Focus on *how* you respond
You don’t control ...
What people say about you;
The situation you're put in;
Where you start in life;
If people treat you fairly;
What other people do;
You control *how* you respond.
If a decision is reversible and inconsequential, make it as soon as possible. Speed matters.
If a decision is irreversible and consequential, gather as much information as possible before deciding. Wait until the last possible moment. Being right matters.
Learning to be ok with being uncomfortable and not having an immediate need to resolve that uncomfort is a superpower.
In situations like this, most of the time we make suboptimal decisions to make us feel better in the moment.
When making an agreement or decision think down and out.
Down into your body. What does your head say? What about your heart?
Out into the future — Fast forward 5 weeks, 5 months, 5 years. How do you feel about it ? What would cause it not to work? Etc.
People who say “I was going to but” tend to have worse outcomes than people who say “I was going to and I didn’t because.”
The former is passive and it makes it seem like you had no control, like the world is acting on you. The latter is active: you made a choice.
A lot of things that work for you also work against you. Inertia is a great example. If you keep doing what you've always done, you're going to get the same results you've always gotten. Decades get wasted expecting different results from the same inputs.
Fear is thinking something bad might happen in the future. The more we fixate on the "something," the more paralyzed we get.
Deciding not to act is often about avoiding the feeling of fear in the present.
Courage isn't the absence of fear. Courage is acting in the face of fear.
Elimination rules save time. When one gets triggered, stop and walk away.
Most people make a decision by processing information from A-Z and trading things off. Eg. While I don't trust the person, there are other things that make up for it.
This is inefficient and ineffective.